A Birthday Letter-

We were walking through Kohls. It was the week before mothers day. We were shopping for our moms and you said, "I want to get your mom something too." At the time you were living with my parents. Spending more time with them than I did because I was away at school. You wandered off in search of the perfect something to give to Sally. When you came back you were carrying a garden statue. It was a bunny holding up a bowl that sort of looked like a bird bath.
"What the hell is that?"
"It will be perfect for her garden."

I didn't get it. I never thought it would be something my mom would want. It never occurred to me to buy her a planter/bird bath. I was convinced she wouldn't like it and that we should pick something else out. But as you could always do, you sold me on it. And we went home with the bunny.

And wouldn't you know it my mother loved that damn bunny.
She put in her garden and thank you for picking out such a perfect present.
That bunny is still in her garden. Still bringing your love and energy into her blooms.

She planted red geraniums this year for my wedding. She loaded up Cloyd's car with potted plant after- plant and took them to the ceremony site. After what seems liked 100 pots I looked at the beautiful flowers that she had grown and among those pots stood that little bunny statue -- holding in it the most perfect little red flower.  I could feel you with me all day. Cheering us on!


The week of your funeral I was convinced that I could never get through it. That no one would ever be able to bring the joy to my life that you brought. And then you did something for me. Even though you had left your body you still saw it your duty to take care of me. And walking toward me after saying a prayer at your side was Colin. Thank you for sending him directly into my arms. After that he never left. We miss you and talk of you with fondness - and if we have had a few beers usually with tears.


Thank you for your love, blessing, energy and goodness.

Your family is together tonight celebrating you.
Telling happy stories and laughing.
I joined them for a short while.
Your sisters grew up into beautiful young women.
Your dad still gives good strong hugs.
Your mom hasn't lost that sparkling smile.
They love and miss you tremendously.

Happy 30th Birthday Douglas.